Q&A: Is There a Way to Be Okay With Being Called Mommy or Daddy?
A Domme wants to give their submissive what he wants – to call his partner Mommy – but it’s jarring to hear. Here’s the question: I stepped back into the BDSM lifestyle as a...
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24/7 D/s and Total Power Exchange
Thanks to multiple questions we received in a previous “ask us anything” episode, we’re devoting an entire episode to 24/7 D/s and total power exchange – are they the same thing or not? As...
Q&A: How Can a People Pleaser Explore Their Bratty Side?
A submissive knows they’re a people pleaser, but they also want to explore their bratty side. Here’s the question: I am a submissive who’s been exploring kink for a few years now. I have...
Experimenting with Rules in Public
This was a really hard episode to concisely explain in a title. We’re taking our own advice and starting low and slow when trying new things in our power exchange. In this case, we’re...
Q&A: How Do We Negotiate Consensual Non-consent?
A kinky couple wants to try consensual non-consent (CNC) and is looking for ideas and tips on the negotiation process. Here’s the question: I (f26) have been with my Dom (m33) for a little...
Kinky Q&A
This week, we answer some of the kinky questions you asked us over on Instagram (at that handle that will be hated forever!). Links from the episode: Ask Your Questions Our mailing address is:...
