D/s for Beginners

Are you new to D/s and struggling with where to start and what resources to trust? Welcome to the kinky, wild, amazing world of power exchange. Before you get started, remember that everyone has a different experience with and different opinions of D/s and kink. There are very few truths or standards in this lifestyle except…

Consent and communication

The rest is fun, exploration, and a way to grow as a person and in your relationship. Below are blog posts and podcast episodes all about different D/s topics to help you begin your journey. Where you see our name, clicking the link takes you to our individual websites.  If you see “episode number” that’s a podcast episode and will keep you on this site.

We encourage you to look and click around, use the search bar, and if you don’t see what you’re looking for, contact us!

About Dominance

7 Things to Remember When Getting to Know a Dominant – Kayla Lords

10 Signs He’s an Asshole, Not a Dominant – Kayla Lords

The Definition of a Daddy Dom – Kayla Lords

Dominants Who Give Oral are Still Dominant – Kayla Lords

Do You Appreciate? – John Brownstone

Building Confidence – John Brownstone

Earning Submission – John Brownstone

What Does a Good Dominant Look Like? (Episode 3)

What’s the Difference Between a Daddy and a Sir (Episode 32)

About Submission

3 Things Submissives Do To Turn Off Dominants – Kayla Lords

10 Signs You’re Confused About How Submission Really Works – Kayla Lords

You Can Be a Good Submissive Even With Low Self Esteem – Kayla Lords

Being a Babygirl is More Than You Think – Kayla Lords

Get in Her Mind – John Brownstone

Indulgence – John Brownstone

Bad Behavior and Red Flags of Submissives (Episode 26)

Dealing With and Understanding Subfrenzy (Episode 67)

About D/s Relationships

You Will Survive the Pain of Heartbreak – Kayla Lords

Aligning Limits – John Brownstone

Making the Switch from Vanilla to D/s (Episode 16)

Finding the Right D/s Partner for You (Episode 23)

Disagreements and Arguments in a D/s Relationship (Episode 25)

About BDSM, Kink, and the Lifestyle

Anyone Can Be Kinky (Episode 1)

Do You Understand Informed Consent? – Kayla Lords

BDSM Doesn’t Magically Fix Your Life – Kayla Lords

6 Ways Munches Are Like Any Other Social Gathering – Kayla Lords

Your Kink Isn’t My Kink, But Your Kink Is Okay – Kayla Lords

Do You Know Your Limits? – Kayla Lords

Take Precautions When You Get Kinky – Kayla Lords

Aftercare and Punishment – John Brownstone

Staying Safe While Getting Kinky (Episode 12)


This is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to D/s, but if you need a place to start, this will give you something to work with.