Are you new to D/s and struggling with where to start and what resources to trust? Welcome to the kinky, wild, amazing world of power exchange. Before you get started, remember that everyone has a different experience with and different opinions of D/s and kink. There are very few truths or standards in this lifestyle except…
Consent and communication
The rest is fun, exploration, and a way to grow as a person and in your relationship. Below are blog posts and podcast episodes all about different D/s topics to help you begin your journey. Where you see our name, clicking the link takes you to our individual websites. If you see “episode number” that’s a podcast episode and will keep you on this site.
We encourage you to look and click around, use the search bar, and if you don’t see what you’re looking for, contact us!
13 Things New Dominants Need to Know
What Does a Good Dominant Look Like? (Episode 3)
There’s More Than One Way to Be Dominant (Episode 111)
Feeling Confident as a Dominant (Episode 150)
Why Dominants Need to Be Consistent (Episode 151)
What’s the Difference Between a Daddy and a Sir (Episode 32)
7 Things to Remember When Getting to Know a Dominant – Kayla Lords
10 Signs He’s an Asshole, Not a Dominant – Kayla Lords
Submissve vs. Bottom (Minisode 27)
What Does It Mean to Be Submissive (Minisode 38)
3 Things Submissives Do To Turn Off Dominants – Kayla Lords
10 Signs You’re Confused About How Submission Really Works – Kayla Lords
You Can Be a Good Submissive Even With Low Self Esteem – Kayla Lords
Bad Behavior and Red Flags of Submissives (Episode 26)
Dealing With and Understanding Subfrenzy (Episode 67)
Can a Submissive Fulfill All a Dominant’s Needs?
6 Ways to Feel Submissive When You’re Single
About D/s Relationships
Different Styles of D/s Relationships (Minisode 7)
Making the Switch from Vanilla to D/s (Episode 16)
Finding the Right D/s Partner for You (Episode 23)
Tips for New D/s Relationships (Minisode 31)
Being Friends First in D/s Relationships (Episode 210)
Managing Your Expectations in D/s Relationships (Episode 219)
Disagreements and Arguments in a D/s Relationship (Episode 25)
About BDSM, Kink, and the Lifestyle
Anyone Can Be Kinky (Episode 1)
Do You Understand Informed Consent? – Kayla Lords
BDSM Doesn’t Magically Fix Your Life – Kayla Lords
Staying Safe While Getting Kinky (Episode 12)
The Dos and Don’ts of Going to a Munch
Where and How to Find Your BDSM Community
This is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to D/s, but if you need a place to start, this will give you something to work with.
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