We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!
We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.
In our weekly podcast, we discuss all aspects of how to have a happy, healthy power exchange relationship.
You can watch the podcast during a weekly live stream, plus learn more about BDSM, check out product reviews, and more!
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Feel like a total noob? Don’t know what you don’t know? We offer resources for new kinksters here on our site and a list of resources you can find around the internet. Start with D/s for Beginners and then check out our BDSM resource page.
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We share tips and how-tos, answer BDSM questions, offer our thoughts and insight, share product reviews, and publish the show notes for every podcast episode on our blog! Take a look!
This week’s episode from the archives discusses managing unfair expectations in your power exchange. The original episode was published in 2018. This is a stripped down version so no old intro, no announcements, and...
As promised, while on hiatus, we’re bringing back episodes from the archives starting with people pleasing in power exchange. It was originally published in 2022. This is a stripped down version so no old...
This week, we share some of what’s going on with our mental health as well as an important announcement (around minute 45). In this episode: Celebrate Kinkmas in July at the Kinkery! We’ve talked...
There was no mental bandwidth for a fresh topic this week, so we did something new(ish?). We responded to recent comments we’ve received on episodes! In this episode: We’re going live on YouTube Friday,...
In this week’s episode, we answer questions asked on the kinky side of Reddit. In this episode: There’s still time to sign up for the FREE Jumpstart Your BDSM Journey bootcamp. All of our...
Some kinksters talk about submission and surrender as separate concepts – which is not something we’ve thought about before – so let’s talk about it. In this episode: Register for the FREE online Jumpstart...
