We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!
We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.
In our weekly podcast, we discuss all aspects of how to have a happy, healthy power exchange relationship.
You can watch the podcast during a weekly live stream, plus learn more about BDSM, check out product reviews, and more!
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Feel like a total noob? Don’t know what you don’t know? We offer resources for new kinksters here on our site and a list of resources you can find around the internet. Start with D/s for Beginners and then check out our BDSM resource page.
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We share tips and how-tos, answer BDSM questions, offer our thoughts and insight, share product reviews, and publish the show notes for every podcast episode on our blog! Take a look!
In this week’s episode, we’re continuing our series on conflict on D/s and answering the question, “What do we do about it when it happens?” In this episode: No episode next week Friday night...
This week’s episode is the first in a series on dealing with conflict in your power exchange, and we’re talking about what can cause conflict. In this episode: New live stream time starts NEXT...
Note: If you need to skip the part with a content warning, fast forward by about 7 minutes. In this week’s episode, we discuss the fact that Dominant’s may use their authority and control...
NOTE: The audio quality wasn’t so great for this one, but we figured out the problem and fixed it for next week! This week, we share some of our own kinky pet peeves and...
This week, we’re responding to questions asked on the kinky side of Reddit. In this episode: Where we were last week Dom pushing too far Toy vs sub Punishment or play One-sided dynamic Fairness...
There’s no single right answer. This is a wide-ranging conversation where we try to figure out what we think about the idea of being spontaneous. Spoiler alert: Kayla does not have a spontaneous bone...
