We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!
We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.
In our weekly podcast, we discuss all aspects of how to have a happy, healthy power exchange relationship.
You can watch the podcast during a weekly live stream, plus learn more about BDSM, check out product reviews, and more!
We believe in having a community to help you grow and to offer support on this BDSM journey. Join our kinky community on Patreon!
Feel like a total noob? Don’t know what you don’t know? We offer resources for new kinksters here on our site and a list of resources you can find around the internet. Start with D/s for Beginners and then check out our BDSM resource page.
Still trying to figure out how you feel about D/s, power exchange, and BDSM? Get the 30 Days of D/s workbook to help you think about BDSM in a more manageable way and figure out what YOU want. Buy it here.
Do you like BDSM toys, kinky gear, and fun swag? You can shop John Brownstone’s kinky store at The Kinkery or at the Loving BDSM Etsy shop!
Got a kinky question about D/s relationships, the BDSM community, or something else you’d like to know more about? Ask your question here and it could be answered in a future podcast episode!
We share tips and how-tos, answer BDSM questions, offer our thoughts and insight, share product reviews, and publish the show notes for every podcast episode on our blog! Take a look!
This kinkster loves what they have with their boyfriend, but they’ve also discovered new desires that feel opposed to who they think they are. Here’s the question: I’m a poly woman with two long-term...
In this week’s episode, I (Kayla) share a moment in kink where I realized I felt shame – which was a shock. Which brought me back to this conversation – the last time we...
This week, we’re answering relationship questions from Therapy Jeff (again!) because we needed a chill, low-key episode, lol. In this episode: Check out the new version of the Kinkery! This week’s trans-affirming resource is...
This week, we’re answering questions you asked us over on IG at that handle Kayla hates. In this episode: Our Wednesday livestream will be at 3pm ET starting next week. This week’s trans-affirming care...
The world is on fire, so let’s take a break with a BDSM Reddit episode! In this episode: We’re sharing trans-affirming resources each week because we can’t be the only ones who need this...
We had technical issues last week which kept us from recording this episode, but we’re back! (Technically with new technical problems but those don’t impact the podcast, lol.) This week, we’re giving updates from...
