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We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!

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We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.

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Topping from the Bottom LB090

Topping from the Bottom LB090

We didn’t know a lot of people had feelings about this topic until we mentioned in on the blog and on Twitter. Episode 90 focuses on topping from the bottom – what it is,...

6 Things That Aren’t Topping from the Bottom

Ahhhh, topping from the bottom. That time honored tradition that either means a submissive has a lot to learn or one in dire need of reconfiguring their D/s relationship. Of course, unfortunately, sometimes the accusation...

Dealing With Your Insecurities in D/s LB089

Dealing With Your Insecurities in D/s LB089

We’re back for episode 89 and we’re talking about something that kills relationships or makes it impossible to get one started – your insecurities about yourself, your partner, past relationships, you name it. In...

5 Ways Insecurities Impact Your D/s Relationship

5 Ways Insecurities Impact D/s Relationships

Being insecure about something isn’t necessarily a problem. If those feelings propel you to improve yourself, find contentment, or learn more about yourself, insecurities can actually help you grow. The problem for most of...

Listener Questions Part 2 LB088

Listener Questions Part 2 LB088

This week, we answer more questions from listeners and ramble – because that’s what we do. In this episode: This week’s sponsor is Ecstatic Relaxation by Vin Charles This week’s question is from a...