Why Patience is Important in D/s

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  1. melody says:

    Great piece.

    My own experiences tell me that my impatience when I was first able to partake of the reality of D/s was down to the common insecurity many subs feel. It could be particularly insidious and lead to attention seeking and anxiety about the relationship and your importance in it. That not moving on to the next level or break that next barrier at the earliest opportunity was my failing.

    Even all these years later with the current domme it’s sometimes hard to deal with. She is patience personified and there’s no point me asking what she has planned because she won’t tell me. There are setups in her actions (which include hypnosis) that are more than a year in the making.

    It took me a long time to work out that the right pace was the one she dictated. Not because I was failing or that she had only minor interest in me, but because she really cared about me.

    You might say it’s taken me over 20 years to mostly overcome the insecurities and the impatience they can breed.

    • Kayla Lords says:

      Yes! I can absolutely see how insecurities would lead you to be impatient (anxiety can lead us to do all kinds of things).

      And I understand that kind of patience. JB can be as unmoveable as stone when I want to hurry up or know something or whatever and he wants me to wait. It’s frustrating and also wonderful.

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