Answering Listener Questions
Right after we decided to make this week a question and answer episode, we thought of other ideas (funny how that works!). We received more questions than we wanted to answer in a single...
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Right after we decided to make this week a question and answer episode, we thought of other ideas (funny how that works!). We received more questions than we wanted to answer in a single...
No real tips or advice in this week’s episode. We just needed space to be able to say that we’re not always okay (even though we’re doing FINE!!) and we wanted to make that...
We’ve talked about the importance of compromise before but always as part of other discussions — on teamwork, goal-setting, and disagreements. This week, we give it an episode all its own. Yes, compromise can...
For the final minisode (for now?), John Brownstone and Kayla Lords are together, sharing bare-handed spanking tips. This episode assumes you know the basics — connect bare hand to bare butt. After that, what...
We’ve talked about mental health and D/s relationships before. And Kayla is fairly open about her mental health in nearly every episode. After a recent bout of anxiety and depression, we’re talking about how...
This week’s minisode was inspired by how hard I roll my eyes when I heard about a “real” Dominant or a “true” Dominant and what they supposedly do or don’t do. Instead, let’s talk...