Q&A: Were They Right to Be Angry?
This week, a kinkster asked their exes to remove intimate pictures from Fetlife, and those exes got angry about the situation. This kinkster wonders if their anger was fair or reasonable. Here’s the question:...
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BDSM Reddit Response
Happy New Year! We’re back from our winter break and starting 2026 with a Reddit response episode! In this episode: Thanks to silentwinged for sending over most of these Reddit posts. Am I the...
Q&A: Should I Reconnect with My Kinky Friend?
A kinkster hasn’t had a great time with a kinky friend, but they miss the friendship they had at one time. Here’s the question: My question is related to BDSM but it’s about a...
Answering 10 Silly Relationship Questions
It’s the last episode of 2025, so we’re keeping it casual and chaotic with a bit of silliness. In this episode: This month’s virtual munch live stream is this Friday, December 19 starting at...
Q&A: How Do We Maintain Playful D/s While LDR?
They’re in a long distance relationship and each have their own partners and lives to balance. They want to know how to have a playful power exchange when they can’t be together. Here’s the...
Our D/s Life in 2025
We made a goal to reconnect and become more intentional in our power exchange this year. Now that we’re near the end of the year, let’s talk about how it went! In this episode:...
