What Causes Conflict in D/s | Dealing with Conflict Series
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This week’s episode is the first in a series on dealing with conflict in your power exchange, and we’re talking about what can cause conflict.
In this episode:
- New live stream time starts NEXT WEEK (May 6) at 8pm ET
- The very next week (May 13) there won’t be a stream or episode for the week because we’ll be out of town
- We WILL do our Friday night live stream that Friday, May 15
- This series was inspired by our session for the 2026 Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit on repairing after D/s.
- We only had 30 minutes and there was a lot we didn’t get to talk about hence this series.
- You can purchase the replay of this year’s summit which includes our session – link in places
- We also created a page on our website that links to episodes we’ve done specific to dealing with conflict – the causes of it and what to do when it happens – if you want a deeper dive.
- What conflict looks and feels like – which can also cause more conflict
- Anger
- Sadness
- Hurt feelings
- Guilt or shame
- Lashing out at your partner
- Withdrawing from your partner
- Sources of conflict in D/s
- Not listening to your partner
- Disagreements
- With a Dom’s decision
- About what the sub did or didn’t do/should or shouldn’t do
- Stress
- Burnout
- Jealousy and envy
- Breaking rules
- Breaking promises
- Decision fatigue and mental load
- Exhaustion
- Miscommunication and/or misunderstandings
Links from the episode:
2026 Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit replay
Conflict in D/s (links to previous episodes about conflict)
Kink Aware Professionals (a place to find a kink aware therapist)
Resources and sites we recommend
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