WTF is Soft BDSM?
Trying to figure out what “soft BDSM” even is took us on a journey. Let’s talk about it. In this episode: Our Holiday Cricket tier – and holiday party sign up – ends on...
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We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!
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We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.
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BDSM Reddit Response
This week, we’re responding to situations shared on the kinky side of Reddit! In this episode: Join us through Patreon for a special holiday tier and get extra perks! Soft kink shaming Got dumped...
Love Maps and Power Exchange
The idea of love maps comes from the Gottman Institute in their studies on relationships, specifically marriage. We wondered if it could be applied to power exchange, too. In this episode: Join us through...
Power Exchange vs Domestic Discipline vs Trad Wives
This week’s episode is from a question a kinkster sent to us. They wanted to know our take on power exchange, domestic discipline, and trad wives. In this episode: It’s the 5th Anniversary sale...
Q&A: Should I Change Our Dynamic Even Though I’m Happy With What We Have?
This kinkster loves what they have with their boyfriend, but they’ve also discovered new desires that feel opposed to who they think they are. Here’s the question: I’m a poly woman with two long-term...
Dealing with Shame in Kink
In this week’s episode, I (Kayla) share a moment in kink where I realized I felt shame – which was a shock. Which brought me back to this conversation – the last time we...
