How to Deal with Drama in the BDSM Community
The complainer. The troublemaker. The snarky asshole who loves to tear people down – to their face or behind their back. In any group where humans gather, you’ll find these people. When you find...
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From Daddy’s Desk: Silence as Punishment
In the second installment of From Daddy’s Desk, I’m talking about form of punishment, usually in long distance relationships, of silence. Yes, I’ve used it in the past – before I knew better –...
“Tests” in D/s Relationships LB103
We’re a little bit ranty this week, but it’s all for a good cause. A new-to-us red flag appears to be submissives being “tested” on their D/s relationship without knowing it, without consenting to...
5 Real Ways to Prove Yourself in D/s Relationships
Are you a Dominant who believes your submissive has to “prove” their devotion through special tests you set? Or are you a submissive who has been asked to prove yourself with “tests” that make...
Can a Handjob Be Kinky?
Depending on your relationship with penises and handjobs, it might not be something you’ve given a lot of thought to. And if you think of them at all, you might not immediately think of...
Equality and Balance in D/s Relationships LB102
In episode 102, we’re talking about the idea of equality in a D/s relationship. We each come at this in different, but not opposite ways. Are the people in a D/s relationship equal or...
