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WHAT DO WE DO ?

We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!

WHO ARE WE ?

We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.

Grow and Learn With Us!

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In our weekly podcast, we discuss all aspects of how to have a happy, healthy power exchange relationship.

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Feel like a total noob? Don’t know what you don’t know? We offer resources for new kinksters here on our site and a list of resources you can find around the internet. Start with D/s for Beginners and then check out our BDSM resource page.

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Check out the Loving BDSM Blog

We share tips and how-tos, answer BDSM questions, offer our thoughts and insight, share product reviews, and publish the show notes for every podcast episode on our blog! Take a look!

Episode 99 On Collars and Collaring

On Collars and Collaring LB099

This week we’re talking about collars and collaring ceremonies. We don’t tell you whether you should have a collar or not, or what type to get. Like everything else we do in kink and...

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6 Different Types of BDSM Collars

Disclosure: Affiliate links are included in this post. If you click a link and make a purchase, we make a small commission which supports our work and fuels our coffee addiction. Prefer to listen...

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The Reality of Squirting

Thank you, Molly and Kink of the Week for this week’s topic – squirting. I’m a squirter, and I love talking about it. Hell, I went on a massive tirade a few years ago...

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When Good BDSM Scenes Go Bad LB098

This week, we’re talking about BDSM scenes again but this time, the focus is on what happens when good BDSM scenes go bad and how to prevent most problems before they happen. In this...