Deciding Who’s Real and Who’s a Fake in the Online BDSM World LB141

by Kayla Lords · Published August 10, 2018 · Updated February 10, 2019

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Catfishing is something most of us probably already know and worry about in the online dating world. But what about the friends you make and the resources you trust online? How do you figure out who’s fake and who’s real? It’s not easy. But we definitely have thoughts on it, especially if some of those fakes are dispensing bad or dangerous BDSM advice.

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This week’s episode came by email request from a fellow kinkster trying to navigate the online world of advice and fellow kinksters, trying to figure out who’s real.
It’s also timely because of a recent article I read that Molly Moore shared on an epic catfishing betrayal by a woman pretending to be man. Yes, it happens sexually and romantically most often, but not always.
People can be anyone they want to be on the internet, and that’s (mostly) okay. But when lies start impacting real people, then it’s problematic.
How do you figure out if someone’s real or not?
- Watch their actions
- Look for inconsistencies
- Listen to your instincts. If something doesn’t seem right, it probably isn’t.
Should you speak up or call someone out for their duplicity? It depends and it’s a personal decision.