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In an interesting (and busy) Twitter conversation recently that asked about expectations and negotiations, it was the expectations part that stuck out to me the most. What can we expect from a future or...

Okay, so we know that not everyone has a partner or wants to celebrate Valentine’s Day (whether you’re with someone or not) but if we can pervert the home improvement store, we can certainly...

Non-kinksters aren’t the only people who sometimes judge those of us who are kinky or into BDSM. We do it to each other, sometimes without realizing it, and sometimes out of ignorance of what...

Blindfolds have become so common that some people don’t even consider them kinky. To some, it’s kind of “kink-light.” But we agree with Molly Moore, over at Kink of the Week, who points out...

Since it’s been so long since we participated in Share Our Shit Saturday or SOSS (ugh, and we feel so freaking bad about that!), a little reminder: Huge parts of the internet hate sex/kink/BDSM/relationship...

Consent is as important as it comes in BDSM and kink. We’ve talked about it before. But with the wider conversation in society right now, we thought it was important to discuss from a...

[Content warning: We allude to or directly mention sexual assault, violence, and other situations that occur when consent is not given or gained. We do not describe any specific acts. Protect yourself as you...

For many people, myself included, writing down our thoughts is a way to not only process them but also to get them out of our head. It gets loud in a crowded and sometimes...

We’re ba-aaaack! Did you miss us? We missed you! Episode 114 is technically two small episodes in one – the first half is about how our kinks, desires, and even identities can shift and...

In what was definitely a spur-of-the-moment decision, we put out a survey at the end of 2017 to help us figure out what to do for 2018. We wanted to know if our ideas...