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Humiliation as a kink isn’t something everybody wants or likes. Even people who aren’t into it, though, sometimes wish they understood it. In loving D/s relationships, how you someone let themselves be treated so...

One of our favorite ways to play in a scene is with a bit of humiliation. The act isn’t as important as how it makes me feel – turned on, shocked, and “put in...

For a second week in a row, Twitter inspired our topic. Several kinksters tweeted about building a submissive up in a D/s relationship and “leaving them better than you found them.” That made us...

I’m never completely sure why D/s relationships and the BDSM lifestyle are treated as if they’re completely divorced from reality. Our roles are clearly outlined; consent is required; and it only works when everyone...

Raking your nails down your partner’s back during good sex. Adding a bit of spice during a back rub. Getting your partner’s attention when their back is turned. These are just some of the...

This week, on a suggestion from a listener, we’re talking about how to figure out who your kink community might be. Instead of vetting potential kinksters to play with or be in a relationship...

In the kink community, whether online or in-person, we meet a lot of people who make us say, “I’m not sure how I feel about them.” Some come across as overly aggressive. Others are...

The current Kink of the Week is all about boots. While I (Kayla) own and love them, my feelings are nothing compared to John Brownstone’s. So I asked if he’d share his love and...

This week we’re talking about BDSM mentors and protectors: what they are, whether they’re necessary, and what to consider if you choose to find one or become one. In this episode: This week’s sponsor...

Long story short? Only if you want one. No one needs anything in BDSM other than consent, communication, and trust. The last of those develops once you have the first two. But some newbie...