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Long story short? Only if you want one. No one needs anything in BDSM other than consent, communication, and trust. The last of those develops once you have the first two. But some newbie...

If you know where to look, you can find all kinds of amazing bloggers sharing their kinky experiences. Thankfully, I know exactly where to look for this Share Our Shit Saturday. This week great...

Twitter makes us think (yes, you read that right) and this week, it made us think about the expectations we have in new and existing D/s relationships. In this episode: This week’s sponsor is...

In an interesting (and busy) Twitter conversation recently that asked about expectations and negotiations, it was the expectations part that stuck out to me the most. What can we expect from a future or...

Okay, so we know that not everyone has a partner or wants to celebrate Valentine’s Day (whether you’re with someone or not) but if we can pervert the home improvement store, we can certainly...

Non-kinksters aren’t the only people who sometimes judge those of us who are kinky or into BDSM. We do it to each other, sometimes without realizing it, and sometimes out of ignorance of what...

Blindfolds have become so common that some people don’t even consider them kinky. To some, it’s kind of “kink-light.” But we agree with Molly Moore, over at Kink of the Week, who points out...

Since it’s been so long since we participated in Share Our Shit Saturday or SOSS (ugh, and we feel so freaking bad about that!), a little reminder: Huge parts of the internet hate sex/kink/BDSM/relationship...

Consent is as important as it comes in BDSM and kink. We’ve talked about it before. But with the wider conversation in society right now, we thought it was important to discuss from a...

[Content warning: We allude to or directly mention sexual assault, violence, and other situations that occur when consent is not given or gained. We do not describe any specific acts. Protect yourself as you...