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When we join our local in-person kinky communities — or even the online kink community, do we have certain responsibilities or obligations to everyone else in the community? That’s a tricky question, but certainly...

Earlier this week, we were out of sync — we weren’t in tune with each other in terms of kink. John Brownstone went too hard, too fast, and I didn’t speak up when I...

On the day I’m writing this, the kids have already left for a three-week visit at their grandparents house — after a month at home for the summer. John Brownstone and I have talked...

No means no, until you negotiate something different in your D/s relationship. No can be a kinky act of denial or it can be a way to maintain boundaries. The one thing that’s definite...

Two things to get out of the way immediately. No is a complete sentence. It does not require anything else. Just…no. Second, no is complicated in a power exchange that’s predicated on one partner...

Even though we took a hiatus to move and we had a lot of vlogs and sex toy reviews, we’ve continued our 5 Things You Need to Know Series, too. For quick primers on...

When you’re new to D/s or just new to a D/s relationship, it’s common to have fears and concerns. Especially if you’ve had bad experiences or heartbreak in the past. We’re not telling you...

When you hear the word “fear” what comes to mind? Is it past trauma or future worries? Are you afraid of spiders or snakes? Many people enter into a D/s relationship — or at...

You’re in a long distance D/s relationship, and you’ve got weeks or months to go until the next visit. The wait feels impossibly long, and you’re not sure you can handle it. Even when...

We’re back from hiatus, and so freaking glad to be back. So glad, in fact, that it’s like we forgot how to plan an episode and then make it. Which means we took the...