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About us

WHAT DO WE DO ?

We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we're here to help!

WHO ARE WE ?

We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.

Grow and Learn With Us!

Listen

In our weekly podcast, we discuss all aspects of how to have a happy, healthy power exchange relationship.

Watch

You can watch the podcast during a weekly live stream, plus learn more about BDSM, check out product reviews, and more!

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We believe in having a community to help you grow and to offer support on this BDSM journey. Join our kinky community on Patreon!

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Feel like a total noob? Don’t know what you don’t know? We offer resources for new kinksters here on our site and a list of resources you can find around the internet. Start with D/s for Beginners and then check out our BDSM resource page.

Still trying to figure out how you feel about D/s, power exchange, and BDSM? Get the 30 Days of D/s workbook to help you think about BDSM in a more manageable way and figure out what YOU want. Buy it here.

Do you like BDSM toys, kinky gear, and fun swag? You can shop John Brownstone’s kinky store at The Kinkery or buy Loving BDSM merch on Redbubble!

Check out the Loving BDSM Blog

We share tips and how-tos, answer BDSM questions, offer our thoughts and insight, share product reviews, and publish the show notes for every podcast episode on our blog! Take a look!

Dungeons and Play Parties, Oh My! LB063

Dungeons and Play Parties, Oh My! LB063

In episode 63, Kayla Lords and John Brownstone discuss the things that happen, what you can expect, and some of the fun you can have at BDSM dungeons and play parties. In this episode:...

Understanding Boundaries and Limits LB062

Understanding Boundaries and Limits LB062

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone discuss boundaries and limits in episode 62 of the Loving BDSM podcast. In this episode: Save 10 percent on the HUM vibe with coupon code: kaylalords What are limits...

Myths Submissives Believe About Themselves LB060

Myths Submissives Believe About Themselves

In episode 60, Kayla Lords discusses the myths and lies submissives believe about themselves, especially after a break-up. In this episode: Our spanking videos are now available through my website via a paid membership...

Spankings LB059

Spankings LB059

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone discuss spankings in episode 59. There’s much more to it than a hand and an ass. In this episode: Become our kinky patron at the $5 and up level,...

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