We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!
We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.
In our weekly podcast, we discuss all aspects of how to have a happy, healthy power exchange relationship.
You can watch the podcast during a weekly live stream, plus learn more about BDSM, check out product reviews, and more!
We believe in having a community to help you grow and to offer support on this BDSM journey. Join our kinky community on Patreon!
Feel like a total noob? Don’t know what you don’t know? We offer resources for new kinksters here on our site and a list of resources you can find around the internet. Start with D/s for Beginners and then check out our BDSM resource page.
Still trying to figure out how you feel about D/s, power exchange, and BDSM? Get the 30 Days of D/s workbook to help you think about BDSM in a more manageable way and figure out what YOU want. Buy it here.
Do you like BDSM toys, kinky gear, and fun swag? You can shop John Brownstone’s kinky store at The Kinkery or at the Loving BDSM Etsy shop!
Got a kinky question about D/s relationships, the BDSM community, or something else you’d like to know more about? Ask your question here and it could be answered in a future podcast episode!
We share tips and how-tos, answer BDSM questions, offer our thoughts and insight, share product reviews, and publish the show notes for every podcast episode on our blog! Take a look!
The last time we shared our latest video series, it was a brand new thing, and we were just getting warmed up. Several weeks in, and we’re loving these short videos that (hopefully) pack...
Things got wiiiiiiiild when we came back from London, so of course we’re going to talk about it. You may one day be shamed or judged for your kinks or the things you’re into....
John Brownstone and I have been reminded recently just how important our kinky and sex blogging community are to us. We’ve been made to feel outcast, forgotten, unloved, and misunderstood by a vanilla world...
A lot of kinksters have valid reasons to separate their kink and vanilla lives. For some, being outed would be detrimental to their careers. For others, it could cause a rift in the family....
In episode 167, we take help from a kinky patron’s suggestion. Cdc asked if you can visit BDSM dungeons in other cities and areas when you travel. And if you do, how that might...
As much as I wish it weren’t so, our D/s relationship can’t, won’t, and doesn’t fix everything. What I mean by that is that the power exchange of John Brownstone making decisions and me...
