5 Fears You May Feel in a New D/s Relationship
When you hear the word “fear” what comes to mind? Is it past trauma or future worries? Are you afraid of spiders or snakes? Many people enter into a D/s relationship — or at...
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5 Ways to Keep Your Long Distance Relationship Going Between Visits
You’re in a long distance D/s relationship, and you’ve got weeks or months to go until the next visit. The wait feels impossibly long, and you’re not sure you can handle it. Even when...
No Privacy for Kink, “Making” Your Partner Get Into BDSM, and More
We’re back from hiatus, and so freaking glad to be back. So glad, in fact, that it’s like we forgot how to plan an episode and then make it. Which means we took the...
You Can’t Make Your Partner Be a Dominant or Submissive
Are Dominants and submissives born or are they made? I have no freaking clue. I can see an argument for both sides — some people inherently feel a desire to dominate or submit while...
Getting Kinky When You Have No Privacy
As of today, we’ve been in our new home for 13 days. Just under two weeks. And in that time, we’ve unpacked, we’ve stressed out, and we’ve started learning new routines. The hardest change...
Review: ElectraStim AXIS and ElectraPaddle
In 2018, we had our first ElectraStim demo during Eroticon. We each held a small sex toy hooked up to the stimulation unit (imagine a fancy TENS unit). Then we were told to touch...
