Sex Acts aren’t Automatically Dominant or Submissive
It’s the month of love and lust, so we’ve got sex on the brain. This topic comes from comments and questions we see all the time. “Can I do this sex act to my...
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5 Gift Ideas for a Very Kinky Valentine’s Day
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Q&A: Are BDSM Scenes Required for D/s Relationships?
I’ll admit this question was a first for me, but when I read it, I understood why someone might wonder: My partner and I fully enjoy our D/s relationship and power exchange. We feel...
Holding Each Other Accountable in D/s Relationships
Accountability looks different for all of us, but ultimately, it’s making sure that everyone involved in your D/s relationship does what they say they will — and if they (or you) don’t, you deal...
Video: The First Time We Used Our Safeword Together
We love sharing video content on YouTube (youtube.com/LovingBDSM), and we’re finding new ways to tell stories we’ve probably repeated a million times. I know this story has come up once or twice. If you’d...
BDSM Basics: BDSM Titles and Labels
Few topics get people heated like the different titles and labels we use in BDSM. As they’re inherently personal, kinksters often have strong opinions on using the “right” label. While words have literal definitions,...
