What is Orgasm Control? | 30 Days of D/s
Beyond “one of our [JB and Kayla] favorite ways to play with kink,” orgasm control is exactly as labeled: yielding control of one’s orgasms to someone else. In power exchange this often looks like...
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Vulnerability and Power Exchange
We’ve mentioned this topic so many times in the past, but we’re finally talking about it: the importance of vulnerability in power exchange. Our definition and view of vulnerability comes from Brene Brown’s talks,...
Minisode 31: Tips for New D/s Relationships
In a new D/s relationship? Feel a bit overwhelmed and not sure what to do or where to begin? Here are a few tips to keep in mind as you navigate this new path...
What Power Exchange is Really About | 30 Days of D/s
What is power exchange really all about? Ultimately, it’s about the exchange of power between partners. One person holds a level of control. The other person cedes control to their partner. Within that definition,...
Funishment
We’ve mentioned funishment many times in the past, but we’ve never devoted an episode to it. And it’s probably a good thing we’re doing this now because Kayla’s views on it have changed over...
A Beginner’s Guide to Anal Training
Anal isn’t inherently kinky, but anal training is something that comes up in plenty of power exchange dynamics. Partly to prepare for future anal sex and partly for the control and “training” aspect between...
