About us

WHAT DO WE DO ?

We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!

WHO ARE WE ?

We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.

Grow and Learn With Us!

Listen

In our weekly podcast, we discuss all aspects of how to have a happy, healthy power exchange relationship.

Watch

You can watch the podcast during a weekly live stream, plus learn more about BDSM, check out product reviews, and more!

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We believe in having a community to help you grow and to offer support on this BDSM journey. Join our kinky community on Patreon!

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Feel like a total noob? Don’t know what you don’t know? We offer resources for new kinksters here on our site and a list of resources you can find around the internet. Start with D/s for Beginners and then check out our BDSM resource page.

Still trying to figure out how you feel about D/s, power exchange, and BDSM? Get the 30 Days of D/s workbook to help you think about BDSM in a more manageable way and figure out what YOU want. Buy it here.

Do you like BDSM toys, kinky gear, and fun swag? You can shop John Brownstone’s kinky store at The Kinkery or at the Loving BDSM Etsy shop!

Got a kinky question about D/s relationships, the BDSM community, or something else you’d like to know more about? Ask your question here and it could be answered in a future podcast episode!

Check out the Loving BDSM Blog

We share tips and how-tos, answer BDSM questions, offer our thoughts and insight, share product reviews, and publish the show notes for every podcast episode on our blog! Take a look!

episode 280 of the Loving BDSM podcast

Funishment

We’ve mentioned funishment many times in the past, but we’ve never devoted an episode to it. And it’s probably a good thing we’re doing this now because Kayla’s views on it have changed over...

A Beginner’s Guide to Anal Training

Anal isn’t inherently kinky, but anal training is something that comes up in plenty of power exchange dynamics. Partly to prepare for future anal sex and partly for the control and “training” aspect between...

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Minisode 30: Orgasm Control

Curious about orgasm control? Here are a few things you need to know about it first! A massive thanks to our Patreon community for making these shorter episodes possible! Links from the episode: 5...

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Falling for Rhea | V for Vibes Review

Disclosure: We received this product in exchange for an honest review. Vibrators are very much a part of our sex life and our kink life. We use them during penetrative sex. We use them...