Where and How to Find a Good Dominant LB042
Kayla Lords hosts episode 42 and answers a question a lot of listeners have been asking lately: “Where do I find a good Dominant?” In this episode: Want something to spice up your e-reader?...
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Kayla Lords hosts episode 42 and answers a question a lot of listeners have been asking lately: “Where do I find a good Dominant?” In this episode: Want something to spice up your e-reader?...
In episode 41, Kayla Lords answers a listener’s question – how do you handle the different roles in your life as a submissive, especially when those roles conflict or cause stress? In this episode:...
After a week away, Kayla Lords and John Brownstone are back with a big topic. Episode 40 goes over tips and advice on how to effectively communicate in your D/s relationship. In this episode: Thanks to...
Kayla Lords and John Brownstone are together for episode 39 discussing both sub drop and Dom drop (yes, that’s a real thing): what it feels like, how to handle it, and how to help...
In episode 38, Kayla Lords discusses what submissives and Dominants can do when vanilla life gets in the way and reminds everyone just how normal it is. Everyone has experienced some level of outside...
Kayla Lords and John Brownstone host this week’s episode and talk all about masturbation as a D/s couple! In this episode: We have a new microphone, and it is beautiful! Pictures are below. You...