Discipline, Punishment, and Consequences in D/s LB058
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Hosted by Kayla Lords and John Brownstone, episode 58 of the Loving BDSM podcast focuses on discipline, punishment, and consequences for submissives in D/s relationships.
In this episode:
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- Two sides of discipline: the discipline to do what you’re told as a submissive and being disciplined when you don’t do what you’re told.
- Funishment is a playful type of “punishment.” Use it or don’t, but don’t let it take the place of simply asking for what you want.
- Punishments are meant to suck for the submissive. It should be something that deters future bad behavior.
- As a submissive, the first real test of your submission is the first time you’re told No.
- Punishments should be negotiated during the beginning of a relationship. They should not be sprung on a submissive as a surprise.
- Submissives must consent to a punishment. If you feel the need to withdraw your consent prior to punishment, there may underlying issues that need to be dealt with.
- Punishment and consequence aren’t quite the same thing. Punishment is the act. Consequence is the outcome, and isn’t always an act of punishment.
- After a punishment, the incident is over. Ongoing punishment or anger is not okay or healthy for a relationship. Deal with the issue and your feelings around the incident and move on.
- Punishment should not be given in anger. Dominants need to admit their feelings and then wait until you’re calm enough to punish.
- Dominants have to follow through. If you say that there will be a punishment for certain behaviors, you must follow through.
Links from the show:
The Responsibilities of a Dominant and a Submissive (podcast episode)
Training a Submissive in a D/s Relationship (podcast episode)
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