Aftercare: Finding What Works For You
When it comes to kink, BDSM, D/s, and sex in general, most of us are very concerned with doing things the “right” way. For some it’s out of fear of harming another person or...
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Using Positive Reinforcement LB094
This week, we’re back to normal for episode 94, and we’re discussing something that doesn’t get a lot of attention – positive reinforcement. Punishment gets all the glory but positive reinforcement is a kinder,...
3 Ways to Use Positive Reinforcement in Your D/s Relationship
Punishment and discipline get a fair bit of attention in both D/s relationships as well as in BDSM. Scratch the surface of BDSM, and you’ll find plenty of arguments that discipline is better than...
A Bit of This and That LB093
Nothing particularly educational this week for episode 93. Think of this as a long bonus section. If that’s not your thing, no worries, we’ll be back to normal in episode 94. Links from the...
You Won’t Always Get It Right
GIF via Giphy When John Brownstone and I decided that we wanted Loving BDSM to have it’s own home and that we wanted to build our own kinky community, we had a vision for...
Cock Rings LB092
We’re out of town this week but through a bit of time travel, we have a brief episode on cock rings. In this episode: This week’s episode inspired by a topic from Molly Moore’s Kink...
