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BDSM Dungeon. Those words cause many a kinkster to shiver, some out of excitement and some out of fear. If you have never been to a dungeon, it can seem intimidating. You are probably...

In episode 151, we talk about a topic near and dear to John Brownstone’s heart — if you want to lead the relationship (as a Dominant), you need to be consistent. In this episode:...

If you’ve listened to a few podcast episodes, you’ve heard John Brownstone mention one word a few times — consistency. It’s one of his core beliefs as a Dominant and an indicator of how...

Thanks to a listener suggestion, we’re talking about confidence for Dominants — how normal it is to not be fully confident and how to become more confident. And also, ranting about why we need...

If we tried to write a totally comprehensive list of everything a new Dominant needs to know, we’d be here for a while. So consider this a “top 13” kind of list. Getting these...

This week, we’re talking about what it means (and how you can) feel your Dominant or submissive when you’re single. For many of us, D/s is an inherent part of who we are and...

For many of us, being Dominant or submissive isn’t situational. It’s not just about the partner we have or the power exchange we negotiate.  Whether we’re a Dom or a sub, it’s who we...

Last year, the story of my life altered forever. On a November day, my Sir told me he wanted me to move to his city when I completed school. To be a tangible part...

Most of us use the term “jealousy” as a catch-all for worry, envy, insecurity and other negative feelings in a relationship. So let’s talk about what we mean when we say we’re feeling “jealous”...

Content warning: mentions of abuse, primarily emotional abuse. We don’t go into details, but take care of yourself. If today isn’t the day for you to think about bad relationships and insecure partners, come...