5 Ways Submissives Can Support Their Dominants Who Are New to D/s

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  1. pandakitten says:

    Panda Daddy and I were both pretty new, although I had a little more kink experience in a hands on way than he did—it’s super interesting to read this and hear the podcast today (although I haven’t finished it yet) and realize that I/we did a lot of this without thinking about it. He tells me my honesty helped him shape his style significantly—tailor made Daddy just for me! Luckily for me, in terms of ease of falling in, I was 80{41b2ccad9c9615e377be815ad205595d71b5b6a7a02ca926ea5182d1112aa551} sure he was dominant before I told him I was submissive, and while we’d been best friends for quite a while by then, we didn’t have to transition any sort of romantic vanilla relationship. I *also* lucked out that he *is* very naturally dominant, so although I led him early on in offering him things to control (bedroom only first), we both started consuming multitudes of media and sharing it.

    • Kayla Lords says:

      I think a lot of it comes down to good compatibility. Most of the time when I learn of one partner who absolutely rejected kink offered/asked for by another, they weren’t compatible in other areas either. So it makes sense to me that two best friends could find the path that works so well and build a successful D/s relationship – in your own time, and at your own pace. And you both DEFINITELY rival us for the cute/adorable/awwww award. Just sayin’…

  2. loulou says:

    I was starting to learn about kink when I talked to my partner about becoming my Dominant. We are still both pretty new and I’m working on being more patient as we started fast then realized it wasn’t working and had to go back and go slow. This episode was very helpful in this and gave me some ideas and helped me think about this differently which is good. I have always felt like I’m the one in charge because he says If I want this then I have to bring it up and initiate everything, which I am still struggling with to some degree but I can talk about what I want ,go one step at a time, and keep sharing my resources. : )

  3. Mike says:

    I’m a new dom. My submissive is an intermediate. She seldom uses her safe words. She loves pain! People tell me I lucked out. But it kind of scares me. I’m 6ft 280lbs. I don’t know my own strength. Needless to say she wasn’t fully happy the first time we played. I fear that I might not be as aggressive as she wants me to be the second time around. She gave me feedback. It was enlightening!.I am really good at reading body language. But would rather not rely upon it.Is it normal to be nervous?

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