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This week, on a suggestion from a listener, we’re talking about how to figure out who your kink community might be. Instead of vetting potential kinksters to play with or be in a relationship...

In the kink community, whether online or in-person, we meet a lot of people who make us say, “I’m not sure how I feel about them.” Some come across as overly aggressive. Others are...

The current Kink of the Week is all about boots. While I (Kayla) own and love them, my feelings are nothing compared to John Brownstone’s. So I asked if he’d share his love and...

This week we’re talking about BDSM mentors and protectors: what they are, whether they’re necessary, and what to consider if you choose to find one or become one. In this episode: This week’s sponsor...

Long story short? Only if you want one. No one needs anything in BDSM other than consent, communication, and trust. The last of those develops once you have the first two. But some newbie...

If you know where to look, you can find all kinds of amazing bloggers sharing their kinky experiences. Thankfully, I know exactly where to look for this Share Our Shit Saturday. This week great...

Twitter makes us think (yes, you read that right) and this week, it made us think about the expectations we have in new and existing D/s relationships. In this episode: This week’s sponsor is...

In an interesting (and busy) Twitter conversation recently that asked about expectations and negotiations, it was the expectations part that stuck out to me the most. What can we expect from a future or...

Okay, so we know that not everyone has a partner or wants to celebrate Valentine’s Day (whether you’re with someone or not) but if we can pervert the home improvement store, we can certainly...

Non-kinksters aren’t the only people who sometimes judge those of us who are kinky or into BDSM. We do it to each other, sometimes without realizing it, and sometimes out of ignorance of what...