Perimenopause and Power Exchange
Perimenopause can impact a person’s life for a decade or more, so of course it affects your power exchange relationship and kink life. And it’s past time to talk about it. In this episode:...
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Q&A: Is Punishment a Necessary Part of Power Exchange?
You’ll hear the audio skip during the intro – it was a problem we discovered after we recorded. The rest of the episode should be fine. They’ve renegotiated their power exchange and removed punishment,...
Feelings of Comfort and Familiarity
A lot of feelings come up when you’re getting back to the D/s relationship you want or reconfiguring it to work for your life now. For us, it’s been feelings of comfort (Kayla) and...
Q&A: How Do I Feel More Confident in Our Dynamic After Trauma?
Content warning: mentions (but no descriptions) of sexual abuse and trauma in a past D/s relationship A submissive left an abusive power exchange relationship and has found a Dominant partner that makes them happy,...
Silly Conflicts in Our Power Exchange
We needed something lighthearted this week, so we’re taking a look at some of the silly little “arguments” we get into. In this episode: Our 2025 Patreon Membership Drive is still going on! Argument...
Q&A: How Do I Get Out of My Head During Sex?
This week, a submissive can’t stop worrying about her partner’s previous sexual experience but her Dominant also worries he’s not giving her big enough orgasms. Here’s the question: My boyfriend and I have been...
