BDSM Reddit Response
This week, we could use a cathartic rant or two, so we’re responding to the BDSM side of Reddit! In this episode: Join our kinky community during the 2025 Patreon Membership Drive and get...
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Q&A: Am I Really Submissive?
In this week’s episode, their partner is willing to top them but not be their Dominant. They also have conflicted feelings about their submission leading them to wonder if they’re really submissive at all....
