Getting Our D/s Life Back in 2025
Taking a couple of weeks off was very good for us. It allowed us to rest and chill, but we also reflected on the state of our power exchange. We talked about what we...
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We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!
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Celebrate 10 Years With Us! | 2025 Patreon Membership Drive
Another new year, another Patreon membership drive. And this year is a special one because in August, we’re celebrating our 10th podcast anniversary (a podiversary, if you will). Our Patreon community helps us keep...
Q&A: What Happens If You Can’t Agree That a Sub Broke a Rule?
A sassy switch has a partner who pushes the boundaries as a brat, and they’re not sure how to handle potential broken rules. Here’s the question: My boyfriend (53m) and I (38 transmasc /...
Looking Back at our D/s Relationship in 2024
For the last podcast episode of the year, we’re looking back at the state of our power exchange for the year. The takeaway is that not a lot happened but we’ve learned a few...
Q&A: Does the Kink Community Welcome All Body Types?
This week, a plus size kinkster wants to let it all hang out at the dungeon, but not if they’ll be the only plus size person there. Here’s the question: I really want to...
Answering More Vanilla Relationship Questions
We’re keeping it light and easy (and also extremely personal, apparently) this week by answering more non-kinky relationship questions. In this episode: Get free shipping on orders $35+ thru December 15 at the Kinkery!...
