About us

WHAT DO WE DO ?

We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!

WHO ARE WE ?

We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.

Grow and Learn With Us!

Listen

In our weekly podcast, we discuss all aspects of how to have a happy, healthy power exchange relationship.

Watch

You can watch the podcast during a weekly live stream, plus learn more about BDSM, check out product reviews, and more!

Join

We believe in having a community to help you grow and to offer support on this BDSM journey. Join our kinky community on Patreon!

banner with Loving BDSM logos and text extra help, info, and fun stuff

Feel like a total noob? Don’t know what you don’t know? We offer resources for new kinksters here on our site and a list of resources you can find around the internet. Start with D/s for Beginners and then check out our BDSM resource page.

Still trying to figure out how you feel about D/s, power exchange, and BDSM? Get the 30 Days of D/s workbook to help you think about BDSM in a more manageable way and figure out what YOU want. Buy it here.

Do you like BDSM toys, kinky gear, and fun swag? You can shop John Brownstone’s kinky store at The Kinkery or at the Loving BDSM Etsy shop!

Got a kinky question about D/s relationships, the BDSM community, or something else you’d like to know more about? Ask your question here and it could be answered in a future podcast episode!

Check out the Loving BDSM Blog

We share tips and how-tos, answer BDSM questions, offer our thoughts and insight, share product reviews, and publish the show notes for every podcast episode on our blog! Take a look!

episode 157 of the Loving BDSM podcast discusses what 24/7 D/s means to us

What 24/7 D/s Means to Us

We talk about being 24/7 D/s in nearly every episode we record, because it’s who we are. But we’ve never really talked about what it means to us. It’s pretty simple, but it’s also...

L'Amour Secret Unboxing and Review

L’Amour Secret Unboxing and Review

If you’ve been here for a few minutes, you know I looooooove getting kinky fuckery in the mail. Even more when it’s a surprise, and every discovery is fun and exciting. So when L’Amour...

episode 155 of Loving BDSM podcast discussing our favorite sex toys of 2018

Our Favorite Sex Toys: 2018 Edition

We started it on a whim a few years ago, and we’ve kept the tradition going since. It’s time for our episode on our favorite sex toys and kinky gear that we tried in...