Introducing 2021 Kinky Book Club
Back in 2017 and 2018, the years of the now-defunct membership community we hosted for a brief moment in time, we offered a Kinky Book Club for members who love to read. The idea...
We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!
We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.
In our weekly podcast, we discuss all aspects of how to have a happy, healthy power exchange relationship.
You can watch the podcast during a weekly live stream, plus learn more about BDSM, check out product reviews, and more!
We believe in having a community to help you grow and to offer support on this BDSM journey. Join our kinky community on Patreon!

Feel like a total noob? Don’t know what you don’t know? We offer resources for new kinksters here on our site and a list of resources you can find around the internet. Start with D/s for Beginners and then check out our BDSM resource page.
Still trying to figure out how you feel about D/s, power exchange, and BDSM? Get the 30 Days of D/s workbook to help you think about BDSM in a more manageable way and figure out what YOU want. Buy it here.
Do you like BDSM toys, kinky gear, and fun swag? You can shop John Brownstone’s kinky store at The Kinkery or at the Loving BDSM Etsy shop!
Got a kinky question about D/s relationships, the BDSM community, or something else you’d like to know more about? Ask your question here and it could be answered in a future podcast episode!
We share tips and how-tos, answer BDSM questions, offer our thoughts and insight, share product reviews, and publish the show notes for every podcast episode on our blog! Take a look!
Back in 2017 and 2018, the years of the now-defunct membership community we hosted for a brief moment in time, we offered a Kinky Book Club for members who love to read. The idea...
It’s no secret around here that we work from home and we work together. We talk about it a LOT and use it as examples in a lot of conversations about our power exchange....
Have you ever looked back on a break-up or a big argument with your partner, and thought, “I knew something was wrong.”? Yeah, that’s hindsight for you. But what can do to avoid only...
We do this every year, and every year it’s a whirlwind. This week, we’re sharing our favorites from all the toys we used in 2020. Why? Because we love masturbation, sex, orgasms, and sexual...
Disclosure: Affiliate links are included through-out this round-up. That means if you click a link and make a purchase, we make a small commission. This supports both the work we do here and our...
Back in episode 13, we shared how we handle money within our power exchange relationship. Over the years it’s changed a LOT. So we thought we’d revisit the topic to share those changes. In...