Our Experience with D/s and Depression
This week, things get a bit heavy as we discuss our (ongoing) experiences with depression as a Dom and sub in a power exchange relationship. We don’t get into too many details but if...
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Topping from the Bottom | Revisiting Old Episodes
A post on Reddit got us talking about topping from the bottom…seven years after the first time we talked about it! While a lot of the sentiments are the same, this is a different...
Survey “Reveals” How Kinky the Bible Belt Is
We’re using quotes in the title for a reason, y’all! Is the Bible Belt kinkier than most people probably realize? Absolutely! Does this survey prove that? Ehhhhhh….let’s talk about it. In this episode We...
Figuring Out Your Kinky Self
In this week’s episode, we’re taking a question we received in a previous Q&A and expanding it to a full conversation. The question: How do I figure out my kink style and identity? These...
Sensation Play
We’ve discussed aspects of sensation play – pain, wax, electroplay – many times in the past, but we’ve never discussed the broader topic of sensation play. Until now! Is this fully comprehensive? Of course...
Answering Silly But Serious Relationship Questions
In this week’s episode, we take “silly but serious” questions posed by a therapist on social media and answer them from the perspective of our long-term D/s relationship. In this episode: Register for the...
