Can a Submissive Negotiate Their Rewards?
In this week’s Q&A episode, a submissive likes the positive reinforcement of rewards in their dynamic, but they don’t feel like they’re getting enough or the right kind they want and need. Here’s the...
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How Well Do We Know Each Other | Answering Relationship Questions
(UPDATE: We no longer endorse TJ) We were inspired by Therapy Jeff on Instagram again and decided to answer questions he advises people to ask to figure out how well they know their partner....
What Do I Do When My Dominant Wants Something Silly?
In this week’s Q&A episode, a submissive can’t wrap their mind around the kinky scene their Dom wants. Here’s the question: What to do when your Dom brings up a kink that is not...
Pure Randomness | A Bonus Section Episode
Things happened this week that derailed the podcast a bit – plus we’re getting ready for Black Friday for our shop(s) – so we kept it simple for ourselves with a bonus section episode....
What We Find Easy and Hard About Kink
Even if your kink life and/or power exchange relationship feel natural and good, that doesn’t mean it’ll always be easy. On the other hand, sometimes the parts you thought would be the most difficult...
How Can We Have the D/s We Planned While We Were LDR?
This week’s question takes a turn from where you think it’s going based on the title. They were in a long distance D/s relationship for six years. Once they moved in together, all the...
