About us

WHAT DO WE DO ?

We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!

WHO ARE WE ?

We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.

Grow and Learn With Us!

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In our weekly podcast, we discuss all aspects of how to have a happy, healthy power exchange relationship.

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You can watch the podcast during a weekly live stream, plus learn more about BDSM, check out product reviews, and more!

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Feel like a total noob? Don’t know what you don’t know? We offer resources for new kinksters here on our site and a list of resources you can find around the internet. Start with D/s for Beginners and then check out our BDSM resource page.

Still trying to figure out how you feel about D/s, power exchange, and BDSM? Get the 30 Days of D/s workbook to help you think about BDSM in a more manageable way and figure out what YOU want. Buy it here.

Do you like BDSM toys, kinky gear, and fun swag? You can shop John Brownstone’s kinky store at The Kinkery or at the Loving BDSM Etsy shop!

Got a kinky question about D/s relationships, the BDSM community, or something else you’d like to know more about? Ask your question here and it could be answered in a future podcast episode!

Check out the Loving BDSM Blog

We share tips and how-tos, answer BDSM questions, offer our thoughts and insight, share product reviews, and publish the show notes for every podcast episode on our blog! Take a look!

Is BDSM Good For Your Mental Health? LB077

Is BDSM Good For Your Mental Health? LB077

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone are together again for episode 77 and they’re taking on a big topic: BDSM and mental health. Consider this the first of what will certainly be many conversations about...

Orgasm Control in D/s Relationships LB076

Orgasm Control in D/s Relationships LB076

John Brownstone is back with Kayla this week for a new episode! There may have been squeeing. This week’s topic is all about orgasm control. In this episode: I’m giving away a Crescendo vibrator...

Listener Questions Answered LB075

Listener Questions Answered LB075

Kayla Lords is by herself for another week in episode 75. This time, she’s answering questions received from listeners. In this episode: Get your kinky fuckery on with the Unbound Kinky Gift Guide thru...

We All Have Multiple Layers LB074

We All Have Multiple Layers LB074

Kayla Lords is by herself in episode 74. This week’s topic is a bit personal and multi-layered – which is kind of the point. In this episode: I’ve got a new book out! Sir...

Oral Sex in D/s Relationships LB073

Oral Sex in D/s Relationships LB073

For episode 73, Kayla Lords and John Brownstone took on a fun (and weirdly, sometimes a controversial topic) – oral sex in a D/s relationship. Yes, Dominants can give oral sex to their partners!...