Topping from the Bottom LB090

by Kayla Lords · Published July 7, 2017 · Updated February 10, 2019

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We didn’t know a lot of people had feelings about this topic until we mentioned in on the blog and on Twitter. Episode 90 focuses on topping from the bottom – what it is, what it isn’t, and what to do about it.

In this episode:

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What is topping from the bottom?
What it isn’t
How people feel about the concept
Before you diagnose topping from the bottom think about why it might be happening
Lack of trust or fear could be the cause
Some people want power taken away from them, and it can appear to be topping from the bottom
If a Dominant feels out of control, the sub may be topping from the bottom
What to do about it? The answer is always to communicate. Only at that point can you decide what the next step is.
Brats, smartass masochists, and sass – is any of this topping from the bottom? Not necessarily.