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WHAT DO WE DO ?

We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!

WHO ARE WE ?

We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.

Grow and Learn With Us!

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In our weekly podcast, we discuss all aspects of how to have a happy, healthy power exchange relationship.

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You can watch the podcast during a weekly live stream, plus learn more about BDSM, check out product reviews, and more!

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Feel like a total noob? Don’t know what you don’t know? We offer resources for new kinksters here on our site and a list of resources you can find around the internet. Start with D/s for Beginners and then check out our BDSM resource page.

Still trying to figure out how you feel about D/s, power exchange, and BDSM? Get the 30 Days of D/s workbook to help you think about BDSM in a more manageable way and figure out what YOU want. Buy it here.

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Check out the Loving BDSM Blog

We share tips and how-tos, answer BDSM questions, offer our thoughts and insight, share product reviews, and publish the show notes for every podcast episode on our blog! Take a look!

Using Positive Reinforcement LB094

This week, we’re back to normal for episode 94, and we’re discussing something that doesn’t get a lot of attention – positive reinforcement. Punishment gets all the glory but positive reinforcement is a kinder,...

A Bit of This and That LB093

Nothing particularly educational this week for episode 93. Think of this as a long bonus section. If that’s not your thing, no worries, we’ll be back to normal in episode 94. Links from the...

You Won't Always Get It Right

You Won’t Always Get It Right

GIF via Giphy When John Brownstone and I decided that we wanted Loving BDSM to have it’s own home and that we wanted to build our own kinky community, we had a vision for...

Cockrings LB092

Cock Rings LB092

We’re out of town this week but through a bit of time travel, we have a brief episode on cock rings. In this episode: This week’s episode inspired by a topic from Molly Moore’s Kink...

Trying Cock Rings

Putting a (Cock) Ring On It

Say cock ring to some people, and they quiver with thoughts of submissives being bound and tortured by all kinds of kinky fuckery – with or without a cock ring. I will admit there...