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We all have our own comfort level when it comes to how much we want our children to know about our personal (sexual and kink) lives and what we believe should stay private. As...

If you’ve listened to the podcast, you’ve probably heard me say (a lot!) that I’m no fan of role play, while John Brownstone’s got some seriously steamy fantasies that he wishes I’d try with...

This week’s episode is a big topic to wrap our arms around, and there’s no way we could cover every aspect of this in one episode. But it’s a start. We have very simple...

Can a submissive or Dominant be good? Yes. Can they be right for you? Maybe. What about “real” Doms or subs? Well, that’s where it gets problematic. Let’s get one thing straight: yes, there...

“A top who has never had something go wrong in a scene has either been unbelievably lucky or has barely scened at all.” A friend said this to me once after we had witnessed...

It’s been a loooong time since we participated in Share Our Shit Saturday with the sex blogging community. But after reading so many great posts on kink, BDSM, and D/s this week, we’ve got...

When you see the term “red flags” in BDSM, most people immediately think of Dominants — the assholes, predators, posers, and uneducated kinksters. But that makes it seem like all submissives are perfect little...

Note: If you prefer to listen rather than read, we turned this post into a mini-episode for the podcast that covers the same points below: Submissive Red Flags (minisode 13) We talk an awful...

When we put out the call for topic suggestions a few weeks ago, Chloe Dare asked us to talk about whether you can have secrets in a D/s relationship. It’s a good question, and,...

Of course every D/s relationship is different, as is every communication style, power dynamic, and the things that make it work between you and another person. So if you read the title and thought,...