5 Reasons Why Your Kinky Community is So Important

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  1. Chrisy says:

    So many of us would probably not be here if it weren’t for the support we receive from those that were already here. I have come to consider it my safe place and it is something have become to need more than want. Always grateful to you guys for being there for me – and showing how great this community is!

  2. Shyla says:

    I’m grateful to be able to read so much helpful info before I open up. I’m just finding my way and am truly a shy woman.
    How did you find your way around the communities?

    • Kayla Lords says:

      I’m not great at talking to people I don’t know (sometimes it’s social anxiety and sometimes it’s being an introvert — not sure I could ever call myself shy) but I’ve found that sometimes you have to swallow the fear and go for it.

      Online this means commenting on what other people post (like this). Sometimes it’s just liking, sharing, and paying attention. But to really be a part of the community, you have to join in or no one will know you’re there.

      In person it can feel much more difficult, but munches and local community events (found on Fetlife, primarily) are often the way to go — if you have them available in your area. Bring a friend or partner who’s kink-accepting or reach out to the organizers before you go and let them know you’re new and shy. Most organizers want to help new people, and good ones will help you through that first visit until you find someone to talk to and connect with.

      It’s not a fast process — especially if you find it difficult to talk to people. But the more you show up and make even small attempts to talk to people, the more you begin to make friends and feel like you’re part of a larger community.

  3. Shyla Lamb says:

    Introvert is a perfect word. And I have no friends nearby into the lifestyle. I like the idea of going to a munch but again, finding my spine and actually going….ill get there.

  4. Broduil_Conri says:

    I wish that we had a better local community.. I’m just thankful that for the most part the virtual community is alway there for us. without it I wouldn’t be growing.

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