How to Hold Your Dominant Accountable

by Kayla Lords · Published October 7, 2016 · Updated January 3, 2020

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Kayla Lords and John Brownstone host episode 57 and tackle a topic that doesn’t get much attention – how exactly does a submissive hold their Dominant accountable for their bad behavior?

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My harsh feelings, “If your Dom won’t do what they say they will, you may need to walk away.” Yes, that’s much easier said than done.
Submissives have to communicate with their Doms in to hold them accountable.
A Dominant should be willing to listen and take in what their submissive tells them.
The Dominant who refuses to listen, change, or care is a problem and a potential danger to their submissive.
Beware of a Dominant with a strong sense of entitlement with little sense of responsibility
There is a difference between pushing boundaries and being out of control
Accountability comes down to communication and integrity
If you need help communicating and accountability, a counselor or mediator may help.
A good Dominant holds themselves more accountable than anyone else. They are very hard on themselves, especially when they make mistakes.
Mistakes happen. A Dominant who accepts that and works to correct the problems is behaving the way they should. The Dominant who refuses to admit to their mistakes isn’t holding themselves accountable.
Bonus section! John Brownstone semi-rants but definitely speaks from the heart. I, however, tell weird factoids about our sex life you never wants to know.