Micromanagement vs 24/7 D/s
Let’s be very clear and set expectations up front — we’re not giving a lesson on how to add micromanagement to your power exchange. We’re not qualified to do that, although we know it’s...
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Review: Making Sparks Fly with the Power Tripper
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Q&A: Can I Give Up My Kinky Nature to Be With a Vanilla Partner?
We received a question that I don’t actually have a clear answer to, partly because I don’t think there’s ever a clear answer to this one, but it’s worth think about: Can you go...
Inclusivity, Identity, and the Principles of Your Kink Is Not My Kink
This week’s episode is a response to things we’ve seen online and things said to us — and it’s our line in the sand and our flag in the ground. The Loving BDSM community...
Reaching Your Kinky Goals Using Vanilla Tips [2020 Edition]
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Stalled Plans, Disappointment, and Moving Forward
Everyone goes through times when things don’t go according to plan, from vanilla life to your kinky fuckery. Disappointment is universal, but it’s what we do next and how we think about it that...
