Getting Kinky on the Cheap
Buying new BDSM gear and toys is a lot of fun. And we both buy and sell kinky fuckery items all the time. But you don’t need money to get kinky. Your own imagination...
About us
WHAT DO WE DO ?
We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!
WHO ARE WE ?
We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.
Grow and Learn With Us!
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In our weekly podcast, we discuss all aspects of how to have a happy, healthy power exchange relationship.
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D/s for Beginners
Feel like a total noob? Don’t know what you don’t know? We offer resources for new kinksters here on our site and a list of resources you can find around the internet. Start with D/s for Beginners and then check out our BDSM resource page.
30 Days of D/s
Still trying to figure out how you feel about D/s, power exchange, and BDSM? Get the 30 Days of D/s workbook to help you think about BDSM in a more manageable way and figure out what YOU want. Buy it here.
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Q&A: Not Comfortable Opening Up a Kinky Relationship
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BDSM Basics: Kinky Scenes
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Being Friends First in D/s Relationships
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Review: Longer Lasting, Thicker Lube from The Butters
Disclosure: We received this product in exchange for an honest review. Also, because we’ve loved the Butters for a very long time, we’re also an affiliate. If you use our coupon code to make...
