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What does it mean to be a dominant? That’s a very personal question and no two people will ever give the exact same answer. The simplest explanation of dominance is control over a submissive...
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What does it mean to be a dominant? That’s a very personal question and no two people will ever give the exact same answer. The simplest explanation of dominance is control over a submissive...
This week we’re perverting yet another vanilla concept — this time, business leadership styles and how they relate back to power exchange relationships. Some have direct correlations to obvious D/s dynamics, others are more...
Instead of throwing in a Q&A episode when we run out of topics, we’re actually planning them this year — one every few months! The best way to ask questions is to follow us...
This week’s episode is a bit of a rant based on things we’ve seen in the online kink community. Every time the issues come up, we (I) think, “Please have a sense of self-preservation!”...
A random phrase led to a Google search which led to this week’s topic — what are the different relationship attachment styles and what do they have to do with power exchange? Let’s talk...
We said it in a past episode and it stuck with us, so let’s talk about it: consider thinking of your kink life as a practice, similar to the way people think of yoga...