Tips for Using Cam Sites to Explore Your Kinks
We often recommend watching porn or reading erotica as a way to get an idea of what kinks you might be into. We also often have to remind people that what you’re watching and...
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Minisode 43: Impact Play Tips for Newbies
New to impact play? Just starting to explore spankings and beyond? Here are a few tips to keep in mind! A massive thanks to our Patreon community for making these shorter episodes possible! Links...
Good Doms | Revisiting Episode 3
In our third episode, Kayla shared a some characteristics on what makes someone a good Dominant. We revamped the list, slightly, for a YouTube video in 2021. But we’ve never really had the conversation...
Minisode 42: Tips for Surviving Holiday Visits with Vanilla Family and Friends
Not everyone cares if people know they’re kinky. Not everyone visits with vanilla friends and family during the holidays. But if you do care and you will be spending the holidays with non-kinksters, we’re...
Responding to BDSM Reddit…Again
We have a lot of fun with these BDSM Reddit episodes, and if you enjoy Kayla-Rants™, you probably do, too. This week, we talk about toxic behavior, unionizing submissives, and more! In this episode:...
Minisode 41: Drop
Whether it’s sub drop or top drop, it can happen to anyone. Here are a few things to keep in if you find yourself going through it. A massive thanks to our Patreon community...
