Q&A: Am I Asking for Too Much From My Dominant?
This couple has been going through it for the past few years and have spent the past year in couples counseling, but they’re not where they were before. The submissive partner worries they may...
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We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!
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Kinky Q&A
We’re back from an extra long break and we’re easing in by answering your kinky questions! In this episode: We’re starting our summer live stream schedule the first week of June – 7pm ET...
Q&A: What Do I Do as a Newly Single But Inexperienced Sub?
A submissive was introduced to BDSM by a former partner, but their relationship ended before any kinky exploration. Here’s the question: I met a Dom by accident on Tinder. He suggested I look into...
How to Be Consistent in D/s | Making D/s Work in the Real World
To us, the best way to be consistent in your power exchange – as a Dom or sub individually and together – is with a routine. In this episode, we’ll talk about the factors...
Q&A: How Do I Stop Apologizing While Topping?
A switch who’s new to topping keeps apologizing when their partner expresses (consensual) pain. Here’s the question: I’ve recently discovered my Switch side and Impact Topped for the first time at a kink event...
D/s When You Take Care of Others | Making D/s Work in the Real World
Whether you’re a parent (now or in the future) or you are a caregiver for an adult in your life (now or in the future), it’s going to impact your power exchange. This week,...
