Q&A: Am I an Unreliable Dominant?
This week, a Daddy Dom worries that they aren’t being a good Dom because they promise fuckery at the end of the day and then change their mind. Here’s the question: Am I unreliable...
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Kinky Q&A
We asked for your questions over at that handle we hate on Instagram, and you delivered! In this episode: The Kinkery is having a sale through Labor Day! JB’s vanilla Etsy shop “sponsored” us,...
Things We’ve Learned About Power Exchange in Nine Years of Podcasting
We’re a bit late to our own party, but we’re celebrating our 9th podcast anniversary! We’re sharing things we’ve learned, discovered, and figured out about ourselves and our power exchange relationship after nine years...
Q&A: Can We Be Switches in Different Ways and Still Have a Good D/s Relationship?
This week, a kinkster is figuring out their switchy self but isn’t sure how to navigate wanting different things in different ways than their partner. Here’s the question: My husband and I have been...
The Pressures and Privileges of Dominance
With great power comes great responsibility…or something like that. The weight of the responsibility a Dom carries can sometimes feel like pressure, so let’s talk about it. But it’s worth noting that the power...
Q&A: How Can My Dom Become Comfortable Initiating Free Use?
After life got in the way, this kinky couple is ready to get back to their fuckery – including free use – but the Dominant partner isn’t initiating, even after plenty of communication. Here’s...
