About us

WHAT DO WE DO ?

We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!

WHO ARE WE ?

We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.

Grow and Learn With Us!

Listen

In our weekly podcast, we discuss all aspects of how to have a happy, healthy power exchange relationship.

Watch

You can watch the podcast during a weekly live stream, plus learn more about BDSM, check out product reviews, and more!

Join

We believe in having a community to help you grow and to offer support on this BDSM journey. Join our kinky community on Patreon!

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Feel like a total noob? Don’t know what you don’t know? We offer resources for new kinksters here on our site and a list of resources you can find around the internet. Start with D/s for Beginners and then check out our BDSM resource page.

Still trying to figure out how you feel about D/s, power exchange, and BDSM? Get the 30 Days of D/s workbook to help you think about BDSM in a more manageable way and figure out what YOU want. Buy it here.

Do you like BDSM toys, kinky gear, and fun swag? You can shop John Brownstone’s kinky store at The Kinkery or at the Loving BDSM Etsy shop!

Got a kinky question about D/s relationships, the BDSM community, or something else you’d like to know more about? Ask your question here and it could be answered in a future podcast episode!

Check out the Loving BDSM Blog

We share tips and how-tos, answer BDSM questions, offer our thoughts and insight, share product reviews, and publish the show notes for every podcast episode on our blog! Take a look!

episode 364 of the Loving BDSM podcast

A Random Episode

Thanks to Hurricane Idalia, we were a little out of sorts this week. The storm missed us, thankfully, but our heads weren’t in it, so we turned this week into a bonus section/random episode...

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And Now for a Break(Down)

Those of a certain age might recognize that line. It’s from En Vogue’s My Lovin’ (You’re Never Gonna Get It). “Never gonna get it, never gonna get it!” If that song is in your...

episode 362 of the Loving BDSM podcast

BDSM Q&A

This week, before we take a week off, we’re answering you asked over at the handle I will forever fucking hate on Instagram! In this episode: We’re on a break next week. We have...

episode 361 of the Loving BDSM podcast

BDSM Reddit Response

This week, we’re responding to BDSM questions and situations kinksters have shared on the BDSM side of Reddit! In this episode: Join our kinky community on Patreon! Submissive who doesn’t want to follow rules...

episode 360 of the Loving BDSM podcast

Answering More Non-Kinky Relationship Questions

This week, we’re answering more non-kinky relationship questions. These came from a marriage coach on Instagram who labeled these questions as conversation starters to deepen your connection. We’ll see about that, lol. In this...