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This week, a plus size kinkster wants to let it all hang out at the dungeon, but not if they’ll be the only plus size person there. Here’s the question: I really want to...
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This week, a plus size kinkster wants to let it all hang out at the dungeon, but not if they’ll be the only plus size person there. Here’s the question: I really want to...
We’re keeping it light and easy (and also extremely personal, apparently) this week by answering more non-kinky relationship questions. In this episode: Get free shipping on orders $35+ thru December 15 at the Kinkery!...
A submissive has needs that don’t fit naturally with what their Dominant enjoys and wonders how to find the right balance for both of them. Here’s the question: My Dom and I have been...
The holidays are upon us (and they keep coming back every year) so let’s talk about how to get through some of the main parts of it that can impact your power exchange. In...
A Dominant provides the aftercare his submissive wants, but she’s always cranky the day after a scene. Here’s the question: My (41m/Dom) and my wife (42f/sub) have been married for four years and discovered...
Happy Thanksgiving! We responded (and ranted) to BDSM Reddit posts. In this episode: Black Friday sales The Kinkery – 25 percent off with code SPANKS24 Our Etsy shops – 25 percent off no code...