Fantasy vs. Reality: Cut or Torn Clothes
Some fantasies are steamy and kinky in your head. The reality? Not so much. We all have something we imagine doing that we don’t really want to do or, when we try, doesn’t and...
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When a Dominant Says No LB106
In episode 106, we discuss that moment a Dominant says no – whether for the first time or the 100th. It’s a big responsibility for both partners and requires communication, trust, and honesty –...
A Bonus Episode About the Wedding!
In light of the outpouring of love and interest we received – and to get back to normal by Friday’s episode – we decided to publish a special bonus episode all about the wedding....
Our Origin Story LB105
We treated this week’s episode like a big bonus episode – meaning there’s a lot of rambling. At the request of some of our “crickets” and because our wedding is Saturday, October 28, 2017...
Letting Your Kink Show on Halloween
For as long as we’ve been involved in the lifestyle – since 2012 for me and muuuuuuch longer for John Brownstone – one thing has been true in our community. Halloween is the night...
Drama in the BDSM Community LB104
This week, in episode 104, we’re addressing a concern that several people have come to us with – what do you do when there’s drama in the BDSM community and it makes you not...
