Sex Toy Guide: Our Favorite Sex and Kink Toys

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The holiday shopping season is right around the corner and as a companion to our annual “Favorite Sex Toys of the Year” episode, we thought we’d pull together our ultimate list of loved sex and kink toys. While all kinds of sex toys make our annual list each year because they did delicious things to one or both of us, only a few sex toys get used over and over again. These are the kinky and sex toys and products we’ve listed here.

We will update this list to include more kink or sex toys we use or play with on a regular basis.

For those who may be curious…or looking for something new to try, here are all of our absolute favorite sex and kinky toys and products…so far.

Original Magic Wand

original magic wandIt may be cliche but we’re good with that. The Original Magic Wand aka the Hitachi is a sex toy and kink classic. It’s massively intense vibrations give me (Kayla) squirting orgasms over and over again, to the point that I beg for it to stop. Of course, masochist that I am, I’m disappointed when it’s over and decide I really want more. This type of wand massager is used in forced orgasm play because, thanks to the intensity, it’s easy for most people to get off.

Note: The Original Magic Wand isn’t a discreet vibrator. It’s loud and rumbly and can induce screams and shrieks in the person using it. The version we use is also corded which means you need an electrical outlet. A rechargeable version is available, and we’ve been told it’s just as powerful, but we’ve never tried it for ourselves.

Interested? You can buy the Original Magic Wand almost anywhere. Good Vibes (affiliate partner) offers a variety of specials, especially during the holiday season to help you save a little cash.

Tyler by Svakom

Tyler by SvakoNot everyone needs a cock ring because not everyone has a cock, but if you do, we highly recommend the Tyler by Svakom. It was our first cock ring to try and we were hooked from the start. The buzzing feels good against both clit and balls, depending on which way it’s worn. The ring itself is nice and stretchy so John Brownstone never feels uncomfortable (in a negative way). We’ve both come from the buzzing of the Tyler. It’s rechargeable and made of silicone so it’s easy to clean. It’s good for penetration or masturbation.

Interested? Check it out on Svakom.

Pulse III Duo by Hot Octopuss

Pulse III Duo by Hot OctopussAgain, this is another sex toy that requires at least one person with a cock. The Pulse III Duo from Hot Octopuss is one of John Brownstone’s legitimately favorite sex toys. He uses it alone or when we’re together. Designed to help people with erectile dysfunction, it can cause an erection without a lot of movement or thrusting which is great for people with mobility issues. John Brownstone uses it for longer and harder erections and because it feels so damn good.

Note: The vibrations are created by oscillations instead of typical vibrations. It’s a piston movement within the plate that’s different than what you may be used to. The Pulse III Duo can be used between partners depending on how it’s worn. If the plate faces up, your partner can grind against it and feel the sensations too. It’s a great way to ride your partner and get yourself off (ask me how I know). The version we have includes a remote control.

Interested? The Pulse is available at different stores but during the holidays, you may find the best deals directly through Hot Octopuss (affiliate partner).

Kinky Cloth

kinky clothOkay, so we don’t own a sex toy from Kinky Cloth, only tee-shirts but these are our absolute favorite shirts. If you’ve watched a few videos (either in the community or on our YouTube channel) you see us in them all the time. We’re determined to buy more and have a variety for videos and local community events (once our budget cooperates). The shirt itself is comfortable and washes well. No shrinking in the dryer or falling apart at the seams. Our plan is to get another set that says Mrs. Babygirl and Mr. Daddy – because we’re ridiculously adorable like that.

Note: While their existing inventory is very diverse, you might not find your preferred title or dynamic among their designs. Guess what? They will custom make your shirt – all you have to do is ask!

Interested? Check out Kinky Cloth (affiliate partner) – Use code KINKYKAYLA and save 25 percent!

The Butters

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We’ve never made any secret of our love of The Butters lube. Since trying this all-natural, thick, and creamy lubricant, we’ve also used the body creams in erotic massage and several skin care products on legs, face, and other body parts. As a lube, it stands out from every other product we’ve tried. It’s not drippy or cold, and it makes your skin feel good while you’re fucking and after. Even better, you don’t get that post-penetration gloppy or gunky feeling.

Note: Read the ingredients carefully. All of the products made use natural ingredients but if you have allergies, you’ll want to be careful. You can use Butters on silicone sex toys but not rubber, Cyberskin, TPE, or jelly. It also hasn’t been tested with latex or vinyl so proceed with caution.

Interested? Use code kayla to save 5 percent: The Butters (affiliate partner)


Bear Things

Our favorite set of floggers comes from a company called Bear Things. Unfortunately, they don’t make them anymore. Thankfully, we also purchased my leather play collar and cuffs from there which they do make, so they’re on the list! You won’t be surprised, I’m sure, that the collar/cuff set has plenty of purple in it, but if that’s not your color, there are other options. We also purchased a bit gag. It matches my collar set and turns me into a sexual beast whenever John Brownstone puts it on me.

Interested? You can find Bear Things on Etsy and on a standalone website –

My Nawashi Rope

We’ve got bags full of rope from all different sources. Hemp, jute, cotton, even leather. Our absolute favorite for it’s softness and color comes from My Nawashi. If you’ve got a signature color and a desire to learn rope bondage, we absolutely recommend My Nawashi. You can even special order rope in your favorite color. Each order includes a Japanese blindfold that is decadent to wear and beautiful to look at.

Interested? Visit My Nawashi on Etsy.

Need More Sex Toys?

John Brownstone makes wooden paddles and canes with wooden handles available for purchase through our Kinky Fuckery Shop.

Check out past Favorite Toy episodes and find out what we enjoyed in our kinky fuckery at least once or twice…

2016 Favorite Toys (episode 65)

Kinky Sex Toy Fun for Mother’s Day (episode 34)

2015 Favorite Toys (episode 17)

Stuff We Love (a resource page for all the products and things we love!)

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